Tonight i joined forces with another mother onboard the crazy train. Thanks Ashley and Owen for a fun evening of burritos, magueritas, and mayhem. I thank you...Tim and Logan thank you. Its nice to know someone out there is listening and is feeling somewhat the same...or at least understands. I think we are better mommys for treating ourselves to a good meal with friends and couple of drinks.
The lesson i learned tonight is to always answer your phone when your in a funk, because you never know ...the person calling may have just what ya need to feel a little better.
Hey Kell....get well soon...we missed ya.
Hey...if your reading this...whoever...tell me about sometime you were in a funk and someone pulled ya out.
Saturday, February 18, 2006
Friday, February 17, 2006
Im going off the rails on a crazy train.......
So im obviously NOT out on a DATE like some of our other mommys. Oh no...my evening highlights consisted of getting a black eye from the wolverine when he whacked me with a book by accident, trying to make an appointment at the spa this weekend and being told they are booked, and then listening to my sister talk about her 11 1/2 pound weightloss as she waits for her galpals to arrive for an evening of pizza and fun.
Alright so this week hasnt been the greatest. Im starting to crack. I feel the need to either run at a high speed until i collapse or drink alot and eat loads of chocolate. Either way i need to get some perspective.
Im just another frazzled, burnt out mommy on the fast track to crazy, embittered, nagging town. All aboard.....
I cant even fall back on old faithful....ice cream....because i had to go and give it up for new years. 2006 is the year of no ice cream and no cookies. I thought giving them up would make a difference ....somehow encourage me to eat right and exersize and quit feeling so untogether. Well guess what??? I cant even feel good about staying off the cream for a month and a half because ive just replaced it with loads of confectioner goodies. Ive eaten my weight in chocolate covered almonds, cashews, peanuts, cranberries, pretzels,raisins....if it can be covered in chocolate and sold by the pound ive tried it in the last few weeks.
And so....reflection time....what am i doing? I obviously am in need of an outlet...something to help me cope on the days when i feel like im getting nothing done and feeling enclosed and becoming goo goo. (not as in goo goo cluster, another excellent goodie)
I should pick back up my yoga practice. I should start running again. I should read more. I should call friends more. I should force myself to concentrate and get some work done. But you know, when the wolverine comes a calling, whats a mommy to do? Its so easy to immerse yourself in the land of books and puzzles and toddlerhood and not even notice that youve left a good part of yourself somewhere in between breakfast and nursing and bathtime.
Doesnt it seem like a lifetime is packed into these first few years with our children? And doesnt it just fly by? Maybe i just dont want to miss anything. Maybe i figure this time ..and wolverine...are a heck of a lot more interesting then all my dumb stuff.
Alright so this week hasnt been the greatest. Im starting to crack. I feel the need to either run at a high speed until i collapse or drink alot and eat loads of chocolate. Either way i need to get some perspective.
Im just another frazzled, burnt out mommy on the fast track to crazy, embittered, nagging town. All aboard.....
I cant even fall back on old faithful....ice cream....because i had to go and give it up for new years. 2006 is the year of no ice cream and no cookies. I thought giving them up would make a difference ....somehow encourage me to eat right and exersize and quit feeling so untogether. Well guess what??? I cant even feel good about staying off the cream for a month and a half because ive just replaced it with loads of confectioner goodies. Ive eaten my weight in chocolate covered almonds, cashews, peanuts, cranberries, pretzels,raisins....if it can be covered in chocolate and sold by the pound ive tried it in the last few weeks.
And so....reflection time....what am i doing? I obviously am in need of an outlet...something to help me cope on the days when i feel like im getting nothing done and feeling enclosed and becoming goo goo. (not as in goo goo cluster, another excellent goodie)
I should pick back up my yoga practice. I should start running again. I should read more. I should call friends more. I should force myself to concentrate and get some work done. But you know, when the wolverine comes a calling, whats a mommy to do? Its so easy to immerse yourself in the land of books and puzzles and toddlerhood and not even notice that youve left a good part of yourself somewhere in between breakfast and nursing and bathtime.
Doesnt it seem like a lifetime is packed into these first few years with our children? And doesnt it just fly by? Maybe i just dont want to miss anything. Maybe i figure this time ..and wolverine...are a heck of a lot more interesting then all my dumb stuff.
Thursday, February 09, 2006
Boob Solidarity!!!!
Alright nursing mothers here is your chance to let your voice be heard and make a difference in the future of nursing mothers in Kentucky.
Here is an update on the Nursing Bill and they need our SUPPORT...for all you moms that nurse in public this is especially important. Dont just take it for granted that you can whip out the boob anywhere and feed or comfort your child. If you do it enough you know that eventually you will get flack for it. We need to ensure a supportive environment for our new mommys to encourage them to nurse. We all know its what is best for our babies......and it makes it easier when you dont have to worry about getting harrassed when nursing in public. So send in those emails and phone calls.
Dear Supporter,
This morning Doraine Bailey and I joined Senator Buford to testify for our bill at the Senate Judiciary Committee meeting in Frankfort. We each talked about why we feel that this is an important issue not only for ourselves but also on behalf of this bill's supporters. The Judiciary Committee voted unanimously to send SB 106 to the Senate floor for a vote.
While this is our first big victory, our bill has a long way to go before becoming a law. Please call your senator to ask him/her to support this bill when it comes up for vote. There is no way of knowing when it will come up, so call or email soon.
How to contact your Senator:
1. Find out who your senator is here http://www.lrc.ky.gov/whoswho/whoswho.htm
2. Email your senator about this bill. Find email addresses here www.lrc.ky.gov/whoswho/email.htm
3. Call the Kentucky Toll-Free Legislative Message Line at 1-800-372-
7181. You will first be asked for your name and address before being
asked for your message. You might say something like, "Please give
this message to (insert the name of your Senator). I am calling in support of SB 106, An
Act Relating to Breastfeeding Bill. We need this legislation because __________ and
it is important to me because __________. I'm asking for you to vote yes when it comes up for the vote."
Additional ways you can support this bill:
1. Write a letter to the editor of your local newspaper in support of this bill.
2. Help us spread the word by forwarding this email to tell others about this bill.
--
Shannon Bridgmon Rinaldo
http://www.breastfeedingkentucky.com
Here is an update on the Nursing Bill and they need our SUPPORT...for all you moms that nurse in public this is especially important. Dont just take it for granted that you can whip out the boob anywhere and feed or comfort your child. If you do it enough you know that eventually you will get flack for it. We need to ensure a supportive environment for our new mommys to encourage them to nurse. We all know its what is best for our babies......and it makes it easier when you dont have to worry about getting harrassed when nursing in public. So send in those emails and phone calls.
Dear Supporter,
This morning Doraine Bailey and I joined Senator Buford to testify for our bill at the Senate Judiciary Committee meeting in Frankfort. We each talked about why we feel that this is an important issue not only for ourselves but also on behalf of this bill's supporters. The Judiciary Committee voted unanimously to send SB 106 to the Senate floor for a vote.
While this is our first big victory, our bill has a long way to go before becoming a law. Please call your senator to ask him/her to support this bill when it comes up for vote. There is no way of knowing when it will come up, so call or email soon.
How to contact your Senator:
1. Find out who your senator is here http://www.lrc.ky.gov/whoswho/whoswho.htm
2. Email your senator about this bill. Find email addresses here www.lrc.ky.gov/whoswho/email.htm
3. Call the Kentucky Toll-Free Legislative Message Line at 1-800-372-
7181. You will first be asked for your name and address before being
asked for your message. You might say something like, "Please give
this message to (insert the name of your Senator). I am calling in support of SB 106, An
Act Relating to Breastfeeding Bill. We need this legislation because __________ and
it is important to me because __________. I'm asking for you to vote yes when it comes up for the vote."
Additional ways you can support this bill:
1. Write a letter to the editor of your local newspaper in support of this bill.
2. Help us spread the word by forwarding this email to tell others about this bill.
--
Shannon Bridgmon Rinaldo
http://www.breastfeedingkentucky.com
Monday, February 06, 2006
Mama Mia....
Yaaaay!!!! Mom is here for the week.....like an angel from heaven. The hubby leaves for a short trip tomorrow so she is here just in time. The wolverine loves Grandmother. She is chasing him around the apartment and he is squealing with joy. He has started using words and attaching them to objects and actions. His first real association was "shoe".....except he says it more like "shows". Now thanks to Daddy he also konws "shush"...and if he squeals too loudly he will then follow it with "shush". Grandmother taught him "touch" ...which has become his favorite word. He wants to be picked up so he can "touch" everything. Mommy is responsible for him saying penis and nipple.....i want him to know the correct words not some silly nickname.
OK..short entry....we need to go grocery shopping. And i think the wolverine is wearing out Grandmother....we have 5 more days to go so I cant let her tire out already. IM hoping she will be at playgroup this Friday if she isnt baby'd out by then.
Hope everyone is having a great week.
OK..short entry....we need to go grocery shopping. And i think the wolverine is wearing out Grandmother....we have 5 more days to go so I cant let her tire out already. IM hoping she will be at playgroup this Friday if she isnt baby'd out by then.
Hope everyone is having a great week.
Tuesday, January 31, 2006
Because your mine, I walk the line.....
Well they announced the Oscar nominations today. I must say im unenthused. I can count on one hand the movies ive seen since the wolverine as born. Who has time??? We used to catch everthing that came out....we would go almost every weekend. I guess it was a hobby. I used to know a ridiculous amount of movie trivia, etc. Now that brainspace is taken up with everything there is to know about raising a one year old. Any air of mystery or intrigue that may have once surrounded me is loooong gone.....i am an open book...i am a busy, tired, worn out mommy.
So here is a list of the major Oscar category nominees....Place your bets and we will see who comes closest. And since many of you have seen as few of these as me it should be fun. I did see Brokeback Mountain this past weekend with a friend. She liked it more then i did. I thought it was alright....but the narrative didnt quite work for me. And Jake Gyllenhal and Anne Hathaway i thought didnt age well over 20 years...i just didnt believe them. Although Anne remided me so much of my aunt Linda that every time she came on screen in a different crazy wig and makeup and press on nails i laughed. Heath Ledger is just as good as everyone says. And Michelle Williams of Dawson Creek fame was really good.
Anyway..here they are:
. Best Picture: "Brokeback Mountain," "Capote," "Crash," "Good Night, and Good Luck," "Munich."
2. Actor: Philip Seymour Hoffman, "Capote"; Terrence Howard, "Hustle & Flow"; Heath Ledger, "Brokeback Mountain"; Joaquin Phoenix, "Walk the Line"; David Strathairn, "Good Night, and Good Luck."
3. Actress: Judi Dench, "Mrs. Henderson Presents"; Felicity Huffman, "Transamerica"; Keira Knightley, "Pride & Prejudice"; Charlize Theron, "North Country"; Reese Witherspoon, "Walk the Line."
4. Supporting Actor: George Clooney, "Syriana"; Matt Dillon, "Crash"; Paul Giamatti, "Cinderella Man"; Jake Gyllenhaal, "Brokeback Mountain"; William Hurt, "A History of Violence."
5. Supporting Actress: Amy Adams, "Junebug"; Catherine Keener, "Capote"; Frances McDormand, "North Country"; Rachel Weisz, "The Constant Gardener"; Michelle Williams, "Brokeback Mountain."
6. Director: Ang Lee, "Brokeback Mountain"; Bennett Miller, "Capote"; Paul Haggis, "Crash"; George Clooney, "Good Night, and Good Luck"; Steven Spielberg, "Munich."
Im going with Ang Lee for Best Director. I dont think the film will win but he has been screwed several times in the past (Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Sense & Sensibilities, The Ice Storm) PLUS since they arent going to win best film the academy will throw them this bone.
Best Film- Crash....I havent seen it, but it won the SAG award and the same people make up the academy.
Best Actor- Phillip Seymour Hoffman...the academy looooves to give supporting actors turned lead awards. These are the guys who are actually great actors but never get the lead roles because the are fat or look funny or arent a movie star. Again...i havent seen Capote....cant imagine a more boring biopic. I hope Heath or Joaquin get it...and Joaquin might be an upset...people would love to here his Johnny Cash tribute. And would love for him to accept in his honor. Never underestimate the academys love of human interest stories and dead people.
Best Actress- Reese Witherspoon- The academy loooves to give this one to pretty young starlets AND she is playing the beloved, now deceased June Carter Cash....i like Reese but the award SHOULD go to veteran stage actor Felicity Huffman whose turn as a man wanting to be a woman is supposed to be incredible. But hey...i havent seen either of these movies either...
Best supposting actor and actress- Paul Giamatti- the academy did a screw job on him last year when he didnt get nominated for Sideways and the year before when he didnt get a nod for American Splendor. The man is an acting machine but he gets looked over for Russel Crow types. Actress will probably go to Rachel WEisz for the constant gardener...she is pregnant and they just cant resist that. Again i didnt see either film. I would love to see Michelle Williams win simply because she used to be on Dawsons Creek.
Dont you hate it when your child is asleep and your holding them and when you put them down they wake right up....twice in a row....and then the phone rings...and its your mother in law....and then you just DONT have it in you to get that child asleep a third time. So then you decide to just wait until the hubby gets home at 10......aw well...the wolverine just smiled at me...he knows im typing about him.
So here is a list of the major Oscar category nominees....Place your bets and we will see who comes closest. And since many of you have seen as few of these as me it should be fun. I did see Brokeback Mountain this past weekend with a friend. She liked it more then i did. I thought it was alright....but the narrative didnt quite work for me. And Jake Gyllenhal and Anne Hathaway i thought didnt age well over 20 years...i just didnt believe them. Although Anne remided me so much of my aunt Linda that every time she came on screen in a different crazy wig and makeup and press on nails i laughed. Heath Ledger is just as good as everyone says. And Michelle Williams of Dawson Creek fame was really good.
Anyway..here they are:
. Best Picture: "Brokeback Mountain," "Capote," "Crash," "Good Night, and Good Luck," "Munich."
2. Actor: Philip Seymour Hoffman, "Capote"; Terrence Howard, "Hustle & Flow"; Heath Ledger, "Brokeback Mountain"; Joaquin Phoenix, "Walk the Line"; David Strathairn, "Good Night, and Good Luck."
3. Actress: Judi Dench, "Mrs. Henderson Presents"; Felicity Huffman, "Transamerica"; Keira Knightley, "Pride & Prejudice"; Charlize Theron, "North Country"; Reese Witherspoon, "Walk the Line."
4. Supporting Actor: George Clooney, "Syriana"; Matt Dillon, "Crash"; Paul Giamatti, "Cinderella Man"; Jake Gyllenhaal, "Brokeback Mountain"; William Hurt, "A History of Violence."
5. Supporting Actress: Amy Adams, "Junebug"; Catherine Keener, "Capote"; Frances McDormand, "North Country"; Rachel Weisz, "The Constant Gardener"; Michelle Williams, "Brokeback Mountain."
6. Director: Ang Lee, "Brokeback Mountain"; Bennett Miller, "Capote"; Paul Haggis, "Crash"; George Clooney, "Good Night, and Good Luck"; Steven Spielberg, "Munich."
Im going with Ang Lee for Best Director. I dont think the film will win but he has been screwed several times in the past (Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Sense & Sensibilities, The Ice Storm) PLUS since they arent going to win best film the academy will throw them this bone.
Best Film- Crash....I havent seen it, but it won the SAG award and the same people make up the academy.
Best Actor- Phillip Seymour Hoffman...the academy looooves to give supporting actors turned lead awards. These are the guys who are actually great actors but never get the lead roles because the are fat or look funny or arent a movie star. Again...i havent seen Capote....cant imagine a more boring biopic. I hope Heath or Joaquin get it...and Joaquin might be an upset...people would love to here his Johnny Cash tribute. And would love for him to accept in his honor. Never underestimate the academys love of human interest stories and dead people.
Best Actress- Reese Witherspoon- The academy loooves to give this one to pretty young starlets AND she is playing the beloved, now deceased June Carter Cash....i like Reese but the award SHOULD go to veteran stage actor Felicity Huffman whose turn as a man wanting to be a woman is supposed to be incredible. But hey...i havent seen either of these movies either...
Best supposting actor and actress- Paul Giamatti- the academy did a screw job on him last year when he didnt get nominated for Sideways and the year before when he didnt get a nod for American Splendor. The man is an acting machine but he gets looked over for Russel Crow types. Actress will probably go to Rachel WEisz for the constant gardener...she is pregnant and they just cant resist that. Again i didnt see either film. I would love to see Michelle Williams win simply because she used to be on Dawsons Creek.
Dont you hate it when your child is asleep and your holding them and when you put them down they wake right up....twice in a row....and then the phone rings...and its your mother in law....and then you just DONT have it in you to get that child asleep a third time. So then you decide to just wait until the hubby gets home at 10......aw well...the wolverine just smiled at me...he knows im typing about him.
Friday, January 27, 2006
Living it up, Living it up ,oh yeah, Friday night....
Well after a looong day, even longer week, even longer year (yeah at January 28th)....I just finished watching Battlestar Galactica. Its our weekly respite from thinking. Just sit back and watch. Its actually a wonderful show....many of you have heard me go on about it. But its not just my word...check outthis review...http://www.nationalreview.com/comment/suderman200601200838.asp
So todays playgroup was Romper Room. We had our biggest group ever with children ranging from about 9 weeks to 17 months. The boys still outnumber the girls but we are seeing an increase in girls lately. I love the differences among the group. Our age range for moms seems to be 19 to 36 and LUCKY me im the oldest. I never thought i would be the oldest mom in any room. ITs weird. I keep thinking....where are all the thirty and forty something moms(Maria i know your wondering this too)...i know they exist...the statistics prove that...and we cant walk past a magazine rack at the supermarket without seeing another aging starlet giving birth or adopting. Geez...i hate being part of that grouping. But im starting to be pretty impressed with this "younger" generation of mothers. I really admire them. And although not that many years seperate me from them i DO notice differences. I figure our group represent a pretty good cross section of mommys in Lexington and im seeing the trend in them to be stay at home mommys. They dont seem to feel as pushed to juggle a career and motherhood. Perhaps because they feel time is on there side? I envy there energy and their ability to put themselves together. I especially love seeing all of them nursing....and nursing in public.....YOU GALS ROCK!!!!
Its been a full 24 hours since The Wolverine has nursed. Ive been pumping and giving it to him in a bottle today. This is a first and a desperate attempt by this mom to encourage sucking and not biting. Thank goodness my sister gave me this bottle......i never thought i would use it though. I try not to be sad when i use it.....at least he is getting what he needs....and i know he loves being held even if he isnt actually latched on. Ive tried to give him alot of extra cuddling and holding too. Im just afraid he is going to not be able to latch on properly any more.
Tonight when i was holding him and bouncing him to sleep on the exercise ball he patted my chest (our sign for nursing) and i just cried. We had already tried to nurse beforehand and all he did was bite down and pull off...OUCH!!
ON a positive note.....Tim watched the wolverine for awhile tonight to let me get out and get some much needed space and perspective. Instead of getting a drink (which was my first thought) i went to the gym and worked out . It made me feel a little better.
Yaaay me.
So todays playgroup was Romper Room. We had our biggest group ever with children ranging from about 9 weeks to 17 months. The boys still outnumber the girls but we are seeing an increase in girls lately. I love the differences among the group. Our age range for moms seems to be 19 to 36 and LUCKY me im the oldest. I never thought i would be the oldest mom in any room. ITs weird. I keep thinking....where are all the thirty and forty something moms(Maria i know your wondering this too)...i know they exist...the statistics prove that...and we cant walk past a magazine rack at the supermarket without seeing another aging starlet giving birth or adopting. Geez...i hate being part of that grouping. But im starting to be pretty impressed with this "younger" generation of mothers. I really admire them. And although not that many years seperate me from them i DO notice differences. I figure our group represent a pretty good cross section of mommys in Lexington and im seeing the trend in them to be stay at home mommys. They dont seem to feel as pushed to juggle a career and motherhood. Perhaps because they feel time is on there side? I envy there energy and their ability to put themselves together. I especially love seeing all of them nursing....and nursing in public.....YOU GALS ROCK!!!!
Its been a full 24 hours since The Wolverine has nursed. Ive been pumping and giving it to him in a bottle today. This is a first and a desperate attempt by this mom to encourage sucking and not biting. Thank goodness my sister gave me this bottle......i never thought i would use it though. I try not to be sad when i use it.....at least he is getting what he needs....and i know he loves being held even if he isnt actually latched on. Ive tried to give him alot of extra cuddling and holding too. Im just afraid he is going to not be able to latch on properly any more.
Tonight when i was holding him and bouncing him to sleep on the exercise ball he patted my chest (our sign for nursing) and i just cried. We had already tried to nurse beforehand and all he did was bite down and pull off...OUCH!!
ON a positive note.....Tim watched the wolverine for awhile tonight to let me get out and get some much needed space and perspective. Instead of getting a drink (which was my first thought) i went to the gym and worked out . It made me feel a little better.
Yaaay me.
Thursday, January 26, 2006
Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens......
Well i guess im now officially a modern mom. I have a blog. Driven to purge my desperate thoughts to page by one year of sleep deprivation, cold meals, no alone time, a ghost of a sex life, no memory capacity, blah blah..you know the drill. Nothing i am feeling or experiencing is new or different or unique from any other parent down thru the ages.....its just that its happening to me now. So i swear....no celebrity like indulgences of "How motherhood has changed my life" or "Made me a better person" or "Now i know the secrets to the universe".
Im learning i know little of nothing. But im coming to terms with my stupidity. At least im entertaining the troops....my one year old thinks im hilarious.
My child, who im going to refer to as wolverine (for various reasons) is almost 13 months old. Which by the way, when can i stop referring to his age in months?? Is there some rule of etiquette on this???
So FridayPlaygroup.....my oasis...my weekly pick me up....my reminder that im not in this war alone. And now there is a place to post updates about schedules or questions on things like "why wont my child stop biting me" or whatever.
Today im going to lament my current drama (each week brings on a new one, right?). My child will not stop biting me. Nursing has come to a screeching halt. We just cant seem to make it happen. Hopefully this will work itself out. Ive considered everything ..Maybe he is teething and feeling badly....maybe ive traumatized him when i scream like a banshee when he bites me so he is on a nursing strike.....maybe those big teeth are just in the way.......whatever the reason im just about at the end of my rope. Thank God for my sister who is the research queen for giving me some reassurances that this is not unheard of...and for giving me positive encouragement. She is right......this does not have to signal the end of nursing...Me and the baby are both still willing and wanting to nurse...we just are in a stooper right now....eventually it has to work out, right?????
Im learning i know little of nothing. But im coming to terms with my stupidity. At least im entertaining the troops....my one year old thinks im hilarious.
My child, who im going to refer to as wolverine (for various reasons) is almost 13 months old. Which by the way, when can i stop referring to his age in months?? Is there some rule of etiquette on this???
So FridayPlaygroup.....my oasis...my weekly pick me up....my reminder that im not in this war alone. And now there is a place to post updates about schedules or questions on things like "why wont my child stop biting me" or whatever.
Today im going to lament my current drama (each week brings on a new one, right?). My child will not stop biting me. Nursing has come to a screeching halt. We just cant seem to make it happen. Hopefully this will work itself out. Ive considered everything ..Maybe he is teething and feeling badly....maybe ive traumatized him when i scream like a banshee when he bites me so he is on a nursing strike.....maybe those big teeth are just in the way.......whatever the reason im just about at the end of my rope. Thank God for my sister who is the research queen for giving me some reassurances that this is not unheard of...and for giving me positive encouragement. She is right......this does not have to signal the end of nursing...Me and the baby are both still willing and wanting to nurse...we just are in a stooper right now....eventually it has to work out, right?????
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